Mothers Day – Tribute

It has been many years since I lost my Mother, she died of Leukemia an awful disease which she kept away from most of the family, and she did not want to worry us. That was typical of her and off her generation. It was only at the end I was told she was very ill.  I was at RAF Valley in North Wales in a job as full time Mountain Rescue Deputy Team Leader and was living with my partner and her young daughter. As we are at that time in life I was caught up with my career, my life and very driven. I had always phoned Mum every week but she never told me she was ill until the last few days of her life when I was summoned home.    I was shocked to see her so frail and yet so strong in mind and still very beautiful. She wanted my brother home immediately from Bermuda and he just made it. She died three days later. Though in great pain she never complained and just wanted her family around.

My Mum xxx

My Mum xxx

My life in Mountain Rescue has led me to see many tragedies close up and I think I never really felt the effect of this great loss at the time as I was hardened by what I had seen in the mountains. It is a terrible thing to admit that I seemed to cut myself off at the time from the hurt and pain of her death. Even when I had to go back home straight after the funeral to North Wales and my partner Vicky tried to console me I was very hard to deal with, it was my way, to man up and not show the hurt I felt. I did get a few days to talk to my Mum at the end, we had a few chats even though she was very ill and I told her about my life in Wales, my new love and plans. She said as long as I was happy so was she. Mum was the finest person I have ever met, she was so caring . She gave me along with my Dad a great chance in life and my love for the outdoors. She was the one who dealt with the five children a huge Manse the poor wages and a big house to heat and look after. The love we had been incredible and the adventures we had were life enduring. Long days on the hills, in Arran, Galloway and the Highlands a love of sport and she was an avid Ayr United fan both home and away! She did not have long with the grandchildren but they were her joy, how she would love to see how they have all done in life.  Money was always tight in a big family she would give away her last penny.

Love yr parents

My Dad’s his work as a minister was his pride and joy and he visited his people the sick and the dying  every night, we rarely saw him. Mum brought us all up and the work she did for the Church was incredible.  At the end Mum  was very upset that she could leave us nothing in the way of material possessions but she gave us all so many life skills I can never repay her. These last few days were very special and I will never forget carrying her to the bathroom and helping her near the end. She was so frail but so clear in what she said to me. To her I was the “wild child” of the family but she looked after me and was always there for me, it is such a loss in my life I feel it and still miss her and my Dad.  It was such a pity as we all progressed in life we could have made life much better for them but it was not to be but what a legacy they gave us all.  Nowadays I worry as all many children are interested in is the financial legacy they may inherit and Mum and Dad are packed off to an Old Folk’s home.

Today is a special day but our parents are special always, never put off for another day what you can do today in showing your appreciation for them, they are not here forever! Treat every day as Mother’s Day and tell them you love them. I was at a funeral recently where a son had fallen out with his mother and he had not spoken to her for over a year she died suddenly. He never had the chance to tell her like I did how much he loved her.

Never let pride get in the way of true love and respect, life is too short.

As I write I am so glad to have such a lovely Mother and feel very proud of her and wish she was still with me. When I am in trouble she is always there for me. How she would have loved to see how we all are, I am sure she does. Thanks xxx

I am re-blogging this since last year I still feel the same even more so as I get older and see every day what our parents did for us.

About heavywhalley.MBE

Lecturer and Mountain Rescue Specialist
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4 Responses to Mothers Day – Tribute

  1. gpcox says:

    You’ve done a wonderful thing here by honoring your mother. A grand, caring and strong woman who obviously raised her child to have the same attributes.

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  2. Colin Heaney says:

    Hi,Very true words.nobodies promised tomorrow.I have left a wee note on the Arran -South ridge direct.Cheers Colin

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