Grieving in these difficult times.

First of all sorry for being of the radar recently. I sadly lost my brother last week and though he lived abroad for over 50 years and were so different folk it still hurts. We all deal with grief differently and my way is usually of going into the wilderness or mountains to get myself together. Unfortunately This cannot be done during Covid. Also no one can drop in for a brew and have a chat.

I have an old friend in a local home still living and eating in her room. She has been doing this mainly since last March. She is so lonely, missing visitors and though we speak every day she struggles to cope. I try to do little things for her but her eyesight and hearing is so poor. Yet she is warm and fed and better than many others.

It took me years to grieve for those I loved. Seeing so much tragedy in my life involved in Mountain Rescue I had to put these things out of my mind. It was my way of coping. Yet when I lost my Mum and Dad o found grieving so difficult it took years.

As you get older you lose more friends, family and those people that mean a lot to you . It can be a sad time in your life at times. You are reminded by doing simple things like removing names from your contacts? To me it is an act of admitting their gone forever. You can no longer phone or catch up for a blether.

Yet so many folk are kind and caring after a bereavement and life has to goes on. This is so important especially now.

Yet when I see the mountains and the fresh snow everywhere it is uplifting. The snow brings a cleansing and brightness to our lives. I feel that there is a way forward and good in most of us.

My bothers funeral will be in Bermuda we will see it via the internet. It will be surreal but many have had to do this recently.

I get my Covid jag next week and I am thankful fir that. Once things get back to some sense of normality I will try do all these things you missed.

Again thanks for all the kind words and thoughts. I hope the blog is bringing some joy of great memories of the places many of us loved. Last week was a wee blip life goes on.

Below is a link to my brother obituary in his local paper: He was some man like us all we have our faults but he had many good points.

Take care lots of love to you all.

About heavywhalley.MBE

Mountain Rescue Specialist. Environmentalist. Spent 37 years with RAF Mountain Rescue and 3 years with a civilian Team . Still an active Mountaineer and loves the wild places.
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6 Responses to Grieving in these difficult times.

  1. Dave 'Jungle' Jarvis says:

    Sorry for the loss of your brother, sending best wishes, and condolences during this sad time.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Pete Kay says:

    Condolences from the Kay’s Hevs. Not easy losing close family, stay safe fella.


  3. Ken says:

    Hi Heavy, these events often weigh heavy for us all but we must endure. other people need help and often we are some of the few that provide,
    My mother died a year after I was born and despite having my difficulties I have survived, brought up a family, and have been in a position to help others. We all have our place in life and must strive to do our best.
    You take care.
    Best wishes
    P.s. your brother probably knew my old friend Victor Richmond who move to Bermuda from Oban about 50 years ago. He was a commander but died a few years ago.

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